Saturday Market

Farmers markets are bountiful in Pittsburgh. There’s at least one every day, except Friday. My favorite is the Saturday Market in the Bloomfield neighborhood. If you aren’t very familiar with Pittsburgh’s many neighborhoods, Bloomfield is one that you might overlook for its wealthier and more popular nearby neighbors, Lawrenceville and Shadyside. 

Bloomfield is a little rough around the edges, a beloved out-of-print book with a cracked spine and creased pages, oh and a coffee cup stain on the cover. A true city neighborhood, most of the houses sit shoulder to shoulder with occasional, narrow, shared-access walkways between. Tiny backyards are the only lawns for many residents since the houses abut the extensive, also rough-around-the-edges, sidewalks.  

Like most city neighborhoods, treasures abound in Bloomfield. There are houses with beautiful front flower gardens using upcycled objects like old wicker chairs, shelving, tomato sauce cans as the pots. You can spot delightful artwork on some old storefronts but you have to be paying attention, which really requires a slow walking tour rather than a drive. I highly recommend the paintings of the boxers but I won’t be telling you where to find them. The fun is in the exploration, the treasure hunt.

So, you want ice cream and Millie’s is too far away? Scoops doesn’t make their own but they have probably 35 different flavors of popular brands and they make MALTS. Gryphon Teas has a store front and they attend the Saturday Market with coffee and a different shrub – here a nonalcoholic sugar, fruit and vinegar drink – every day (today’s was citrus rose). My favorite shrub is their strawberry lavender. It might sound weird but it’s delicious and refreshing.

White Whale Books does local author talks. If you’re looking to mix it up with some brilliant and eclectic people, the Big Idea Cooperative Bookstore is run by a bunch of liberal hippies – my people – who have weekend events and a wonderful food pantry outside that’s always accessible. Some of the folks there are anarchists and they’re great for a chat, if you’re looking for something to do on a weeknight. Even if they’re not open, reading the handwritten signs in the window is an experience.

If you’re a meat lover, Tessaro’s, in lower Bloomfield, grinds their own beef to make the most ridiculously good burgers you’ll ever have. It’s an old family restaurant whose matriarch, when she’s feeling up to it, works as the hostess. She’s terrifying, like you’d expect an elderly Italian restaurateur to be, plus she can’t possibly be more than 4’10”. 

The weekend dinner wait at Tessaro’s is an absolute nightmare so you should visit on a weekday or have an early dinner. Trust me. We’ve waited on the curb for over an hour to get in. It’s worth the wait but if you plan well, you won’t have to. 

In upper Bloomfield, there’s a business owner, Rocky, who runs at least two storefronts. Three or four days a week, he runs Rocky’s Cafe. If you’ve ever seen My Cousin Vinny, it’s a little like the diner in that movie with a slightly wider selection of breakfast items but no other options because it closes at noon. Those hours might be to allow him to hustle over to Rocky’s Tailor and Cleaners to open the doors. 

Rocky is kind of famous in the neighborhood for being … abrasive is the most tactful label I can offer. The food’s pretty good. It’s cheap. And the chatter is quite an experience, especially if you sit at the counter.

There are several great boutiques, the kind with windows you stop to look at. My mom would have called it window dressing unironically. An early evening walk through Bloomfield is the best people watching if you want a weird mix of young and old – rich and poor. It’s humming with activity and all the grumpy old guys are out, sitting on their front stoeps to watch the world go by – and sometimes bitch at it.

Anyway, back to the Saturday Market. Tangy cherry season is over – and you have to be willing to throw hands if you want to get them while they’re in season. The crops are always small but worth selling at least a smidge of your soul to get a taste. I confessed my undying love to the Sturgis vendor when I got a quart but he’s in a relationship so I’ll have to stick to the cherries.

Today there was a barrio pop-up with a huge line so I didn’t eat but the smell was incredible. It was slightly down the way from today’s busker, a banjo player. He writes his own songs, which are much less stereotypical banjo than you’d expect, softer, gentler, a little melancholy. 

The gyro vendor was throwing lamb scraps to the gazillion puppers. Like many of the vendors, he also keeps a bowl of water in the shade for his furry guests. One time, a huge mutt curled up under the table at his stand, probably because it was shady and smelled good. I’d have joined him there but I don’t actually like lamb. 

There’s an Amish vendor, too, but the young women there can’t do simple math to make change. I refuse to spend my money there, in protest to their inadequate education. They have a right to their beliefs and I have a right to refuse to fund them. 

Right across the way is a locally famous family business, Freedom Farms. They had a reality show in the 2010-ish timeframe. The nine sons are pretty well known but you shouldn’t google their show, Farm Kings, or their website – because objectifying people is wrong. I’ve provided the URLs informationally only. They, uh, put on a great corn festival in the fall. And the men work it. Just sayin’.

Much love. 

Saturday Market

Gothic Poems?

There’s a lot of poetry floating around in my head (mostly the kind that one would submit to Okay Donkey or Sad Goose Coop – corny, weird stuff – you know the type) but I’m busy, too busy to focus on poetry at the moment. That isn’t, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, preventing me from writing the blog entry. I’m busy but still procrastinating of course. 

It’s been more than a month since I last chatted with you. Hey! How are you? How was your July? Mine? Oh my gosh. Thanks for asking. Crazy. It was crazy. I hardly had a moment to sit and contemplate. I’m not even sure what I’d be contemplating but that’s the point of contemplation, isn’t it?

I’m so close to being finished with the latest novel. It’s like when you see an image in the distance and watch it form gradually as you draw closer. I know what’s going to happen and I know how it’s going to happen. Now, it’s just a matter of putting the final few thousand words on the screen. Sometimes, that’s the hardest part. It’s so easy to start writing but what if I can’t finish it? What if I can’t write the ending that I envision? The first 60,000 words roll off the fingers but the last 10,000 arrive one letter at a time.

I’ve been thinking a bit about grief lately. More than usual? Probably not but perhaps with more awareness. This month would have been my 30th wedding anniversary. I know I’ve mentioned before that we never really cared about marking particular days and even missed our actual anniversary date more than once. But now that there’s nothing to mark, I’m more aware of the date approaching. 

This has made me consider the changing face of grief. I’ve seen a bit, in my half century (plus). Life and therapy have encouraged me to understand my own grief and trauma, without comparing it to others, without why me-ing. But there are times when I feel the weight of it more. 

Trust me when I say that is NOT a plea for sympathy. 

As most grieving and traumatized individuals would tell you, after the initial event, we don’t really want people to sympathize. Learning to sit with – acknowledge, if you will – our experiences, talk about them, accept them, is part of the process of changing. 

It’s not like emerging from a chrysalis. I’m pretty sure no butterfly has ever thought, “if only.” It’s more like becoming fluent in a language. Initially, there’s a lot of struggle, trying to figure things out. Then, as we become more experienced, we recognize what things mean but we can’t always communicate. Over time, we get more fluent, but we still forget and still communicate poorly on occasion. 

The changes we experience are things that no one who hasn’t gone through it could anticipate. Unless you’ve lost your partner, you probably won’t understand those days where partnered people seem to surround you. While we were driving home from treatment one time, Ken pointed out all the old people we passed. There were so many. His unspoken message was clear:  why won’t I grow old but all these other people have? 

As his end was approaching, I was looking at my future. He saw a lot of people who had already achieved an age he never would. I saw so many silver-haired single women, sitting in groups at the coffee shop, alone together. 

Colin Hay’s song “I Just Don’t Think I’ll Ever Get Over You” captures the experience particularly well (which shouldn’t be surprising because this is a man who knows grief). “I still find pieces of your presence here” is exactly what my life is like. 

It’s not just that sometimes I open a drawer and find something that I can picture being held in Ken’s narrow, long-fingered hands. That definitely happens but sometimes it just makes me laugh, like when I stumble across the yellow, banana-shaped, banana slicer – I think I told the banana slicer story in an earlier post.

It’s also that I am as likely to find pieces of his presence in a moment, a memory, an image from a movie, or even in words that I write. His presence is inside me, not captured in an object or a place. That’s lovely and difficult, not something for sympathy so much as understanding. 

Anyway, because you now think I cry myself to sleep every night – what an exhausting thing that would be – I’ll point back to Hay’s song – “I don’t want you thinking that I don’t get asked to dinner.” 

Yeah, that’s not a weird announcement that I’m dating. No thanks. But I am living joyfully because I should. Otherwise, what’s the point? A slog of sorrow and a lonely death? Not for me, though I do think ‘A Slog of Sorrow’ would be a delightful gothic poem or maybe an Irish drinking song. 

And on that note, it’s time to wrap this up. I’m going to breakfast with friends this morning. What are you up to today? 

Much love.

Gothic Poems?