Weed Pens and Pompadours

One of the great delights of sitting at the window of the coffee shop is the bakery across the street. There is steady traffic through the disappointingly ableist entrance, not surprising here on Walnut, where accessibility was an after-thought. The view of the interior is blocked by the seasonally appropriate decor at the front window, currently big red and orange maple leaves. Patrons leave with boxes, bags, and occasionally a treat folded simply into a piece of bakery paper. 

Sometimes, they sit on a nearby bench to peek into their treat container, a likely event when they shop in groups. They lean into each other so they can peer together into the container and gently select their preferred treat. Just now, a couple leaves the store, holding a plastic container filled with orange jack o’lantern sugar cookies. She offers him a cookie. He reaches in, gingerly selects one, and takes a huge bite, nodding even before the cookie can have hit his palate. It’s going to be a good cookie. He already knows this. 

A heavily coiffed older man enters one of the expensive clothing boutiques. His hair is more salt than pepper, worn in a vaguely pompadour style. His jeans are black, with a thick, probably plastic, black chain clipped to his belt loop and, one assumes, his wallet. He’s wearing a leather vest over a short sleeved shirt and black Doc Martens. The man is feeling his style. If the Insta account, keeppittsburghdope, were here, there would be a photo shoot for sure. 

Three young men are standing on the street corner and are they ever trouble on two legs, the blonde in particular. He just took a “secret” hit of his friend’s weed pen. I watched and laughed when we made eye contact. Yes, my dear child, I saw the whole thing. He nudged his friend to hand off the pen and pulled him across the street. Hopefully, they aren’t running from me. I couldn’t give less of a damn what he puts in his body, though I do find his lack of discretion incredibly funny. It’s like that drunk person everyone knows who thinks they’re good at whispering.

There’s so much joy on the street today. It’s muggy but sunny; perhaps the mood is a result of the unexpected break from the rain. A young couple just sat outside, directly in front of me. Their pictures are probably on Merriam-Webster next to “young love.” It’s to be hoped they leave soon, though. They are staring at each other and awkwardly caressing acceptable-to-touch-in-public body parts. I love young love but I don’t really want to be looking directly at some aspects of it.

Earlier this week, I was talking with someone about Frida Kahlo as we studied one of her many paintings, the particular one of Frida in a vibrant red dress reclining in a verdant tree from the Mexican Museum of Modern Art. He kept saying Spanish and I kept saying, Mexican. Finally, he turns to look at me and says, “I do know the difference.” Clearly, he doesn’t know the difference if he thinks Frida Kahlo was Spanish. Yes, her mother was Spanish but Frida was extremely clear, her entire life, about her commitment to Mexico. She even changed her own birthday to coincide with the Mexican revolution. I’m sorry to have to report that my shovel slipped and knocked him into the six-foot hole I was just randomly digging in the middle of [REDACTED] forest. Hopefully, none of you needed anything from him.  

You’d have to be here to experience the joy I just felt watching someone ride a scooter down the street while wearing a stuffed turkey hat over his helmet. At the exact same time, two young Jewish men are walking by, saying “Shana Tova” to the people they pass, including the young woman wearing a baby on her chest and carrying a cold drink. They’re so busy sharing greetings that they completely miss turkey-scooter. 

A large “off road” pickup truck has just parallel parked in front of the coffee shop. He only backed onto the sidewalk twice. Don’t judge him; trucks are tough to park. I don’t think he’s a contender for this weekend’s parallel parking contest. Yes, the contest is real and the winner gets, among other things, a gold (painted) parking chair. Also on this weekend’s agenda is Johnny Cash Day at the Elk’s Lodge, the same location as the Banjo Club nights. Johnny Cash Day usually sells out pretty quickly; if you don’t have tickets, you probably aren’t getting tickets. 

Ran out of battery power and am now working in the back of the coffee shop, attached to a wall by a cord. I’ve been writing for hours and am taking a break now, by writing something else. Hmm. Perhaps I should take a break by taking a walk? A better idea but one I’m not following up on until I have finished editing Chapter 12 of my manuscript. It’s a…um…it’s an intimate scene, let’s say, which is a bit awkward because my screen is not currently facing a wall. Anyone walking by could potentially see some references to body parts and dangly bits and…well, it’s awkward when I’m plugged in. (That’s what she said.)

A cute guy MY AGE just sat down next to me, making this even weirder. I wouldn’t have thought that was possible but then again, ten years ago, I wouldn’t have thought I’d write what I’m currently writing. I’ve turned a little on my chair to hide my screen. Today-me would like to travel back in time to suggest one of those privacy screens to a-week-ago-me.

Much love.

Weed Pens and Pompadours

A MISH MASH

Pittsburgh, like all cities, has a seedy side, a section of town where, I have discovered, one can unexpectedly watch a stranger’s M-M porn selection playing on a big screen television next to wide open windows as the pink light of dawn floods the morning sky. How do I know this? Well, it turns out that Amtrak and Greyhound both depart across the street from the big picture window of Liberty Bail Bonds. And that’s all I have to say about that … well, other than: “learn something new every day.”

In completely unrelated news, Pride month is underway with a full line-up of activities, including a festival in my neighborhood. An acquaintance cheerfully informed me that I can get a free drink when I get my free STD test at the festival. Thanks for the info, I guess? Since I don’t drink, they suggested a Shirley Temple, which made me wonder if STB appreciated having a drink named after her very young self. A quick Google suggests that she hated it, which seems particularly on brand for her. Adult life after a childhood owned by others must have been something of a trial for her. 

Apropos of nothing in particular, I was both mis-gendered and mis-labeled (as butch) on the same day that I was offered a free STD test and got an eyeful of porn before I’d even had an iced tea. Do these experiences make me or Pittsburgh chaotic neutral? Perhaps both. 

In service to all of you, I discovered, through application, that the weight of a box of tiles is equal to the number of stairs to be climbed x the outdoor temperature x the number of boxes to be carried x the distance traveled with each box x the height to which each box has to be lifted. This formula was tested extensively (by me and my eldest). In addition, we believe there may be a direct correlation between the amount of sweat produced and the number of activities scheduled immediately after the last box of tiles has been carried, i.e., the more one sweats the more need there is to be presentable directly after (or perhaps during) sweat production.

In news you don’t want to read, I went bra shopping with my daughter. She is helping me, in the first of many children parenting the parent moments in my future. Generally, I hate shopping but being with her while I tried on bras and subsequently contemplated my future as a Ren Fest cosplayer was legendary. If you’ve ever attended a Ren Fest, you can visualize the possibilities. I mean, seriously, why do two bras of the same size provide such astonishingly different fits? One was too big and another was so small only one of the girls was actually in the bra. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard during an experience that could have been frustrating and humiliating. Daughters, my friends. They deserve accolades.

Recently, my sister’s dog and I were at the coffee shop. We’re not allowed inside (except to get our drinks) but she’s perfectly happy outside, getting pets and greeting all the dogs. She absolutely loves dogs. We’ve made friends with a Bernese mountain dog and two bull terriers so far. Sadly, we did not get to visit with Fred, the miniature long-haired dachshund. 

Unfortunately for Regal’s patience, the people at the table next to mine were eating bagel sandwiches that smelled absolutely fantastic. Regal tried crying, sitting on their feet, putting her nose on the table, and crying again. I stopped all of her efforts, to her disgust. The women sitting at the table were very sweet about it. They spoke Dutch to each other but addressed me in perfect English, when Regal clothes-lined one of them (yes, she absolutely did). I think it was all part of Regal’s plot to steal the food, practical from her perspective but embarrassing from mine.

We left shortly after that to visit the chickens. Regal has a fantasy about chickens that seems to involve eating them. They don’t care about her at all. In fact, they’re very used to dogs; it’s the life of city chickens. They live beside the sidewalk, chicken wire protecting them from invasive snoots, of which Regal’s is definitely one. Sadly, we were not able to stay long, staring at chickens. There was a very small dog with a very loud bark. It was scary, more scary than chickens are amazing.

After our walk, I returned alone to the coffee shop to continue working (which I am currently not doing because words are hard). My first act upon sitting was to spill some tea – the liquid kind, sadly. It made surprisingly little noise – a squishing sound rather than a crash. Two men rushed to help, one actually cleaning up part of the mess while I begged for a mop. Twenty years ago, I would have evaporated on the spot but no longer. These days, I swear and move on, which was, apparently, the right response because the customer sitting next to me laughed when I cursed (quietly).

The Appalachian Trail trip starts tomorrow – way too early in the morning. I’m completely ready (hahahahaha). Last night, I finished tick-proofing my gear and today I’m rethinking all my life choices. JK. I also bought new hiking boots. I know. I know. But my options were sore feet from bad boots or sore feet from new boots.  

We’ll be hiking the Shenandoah and my plan is to take about 3 gazillion pictures. My other plan is to not die or significantly injure myself but we’re playing that one by ear, as they say. 

For any thieves thinking I just confessed to an empty house, don’t be fooled. The house will be more full of people than usual thanks to parties being thrown in my absence. Lol. Also, I have a large and protective bull terrier. She loves me but she will absolutely hate you if you try to break into the house. You do not want to know what she does when she hates something. Facts.

All the dogs know something is UP. Every time I move, the puppy train connects to my heels. They absolutely will not let me move without following me. Tomorrow is going to be ruff (sorry, not sorry) for them.

One more sleep and one more shower before the big adventure. Ten miles a day and a nightly snooze in a hammock. Life goals.

See you on the flip side.

Much love.

A MISH MASH

Who Is Your Home?

It’s windy today. Leaf sparrows skim along the ground, more quickly than their bird selves, and then take to the skies with less elegance, directionless, in fact. They rustle without risk, drawing the attention of my neighbor’s cat. He has killer instincts without the mental acuity to recognize bird from leaf. It’s a pleasure, truthfully, to watch him expend his boundless energy on something that is already dead.

My next door neighbor – the 90-something man – is a little mad at me but he can’t yell at me because I’m helping him with something. As such, when I was talking with him yesterday morning, he told me (very loudly) how angry he is with … ahem, SOMEONE ELSE (me, he means me) because they don’t rake their leaves.

I was so delighted by this interaction that I have been telling people about it since yesterday. I’m not going to start raking my leaves either. This spring, my BIL will be helping me transform my yard into a pollinator garden. Perhaps that will please my neighbor (it absolutely will not). 

There will be a walking path in the new garden so he can bring his wheelbarrow through my yard – which is almost exactly the size of a postage stamp. He is, in fact, pleased about the path, which might also encourage the mail carrier to stop stepping on my flowers (it absolutely will not). 

It’s Friday evening and I am dumfungled. Every word I write is the most words I’ve ever written for a single story. Every additional minute I live is the longest I’ve ever lived. Each of my heartbeats adds to the longest stretch of heartbeats …. You know where this is taking us, right?. Some weeks feel like a combination of achievements and hurdles. I suppose it’s yin and yang but right now it feels more like being shot and poisoned.

There’s a poem – I Saw Emmett Till This Week at the Grocery Store – that I think about often. I won’t interpret it for you here. Like all poems, it is best that you read it for yourself, take from it what speaks most clearly to you. I’ll say only that it shouts to me in a melancholic whisper that hurts every time I read it. As it should.

Poems are strange that way. Every day I read poems that speak to the particular moment I’m experiencing. Is it just the right poem finding me at the moment it’s most needed or is it me taking what I need from those words? Who knows? If you don’t like poetry, may I suggest that you aren’t reading the right poetry? There are so many types. Don’t be fooled into thinking that the only good poetry is dead poetry. Please. Shakespeare was great and all but have you ever read In Praise of My Bed?

As the snow falls here in Pittsburgh today (don’t get me started. I’m very bitter), novel revisions are underway – yes, I removed my agency from that sentence but I am, in fact, the one doing the revising. At this stage of the writing process, though, I feel as though my characters are in charge of telling their story. The novel – written from the butler’s perspective – is called The Butler Loves the Governess. It’s set in the very early 1800s and includes some rather delightful love letters. 

Anyway, I’m only the conduit. The butler is always trying to take charge of the story telling. Our arguments have been … interesting. For example:

The butler: I need to prove my love for the governess.

Me: Hmm. And what do you have in mind? 

The butler: I’m going to hold up the mail coach that she’s riding in.

Me: ….

The butler: I’ll need a pistol

Me: What?

The butler:  And a mask.

Me: Eamon, this is not a rewrite of The Three Musketeers

The butler: What kind of story is that? Do they get pistols?

Me: Well, actually, I think they use swords

The butler: SWORDS! Yes, swords. That’s a great suggestion. Much better than pistols.

Me: [drops head to desk, sobs]

Mostly, it’s been a delight, even if none of you ever get to read it. Of course, I fully intend to keep asking agents to consider it. I’m water on a stone, you know. Eventually, I will wear them down. 

I’ve been listening to a lot of new-to-me music this week: Oh Wonder, Josie Man, Madison Olds, 5SOS. I think my current favorite song is “Tattoos Together” by Lauv. I’ve only listened to this song like a million times this week. I think it encapsulates that teenage feeling of temporary but eternal love, how frantic and deep that emotion seems at 17 or 18.

Eamon’s calling to me again. I think he wants to “discuss” how he’s going to pine for the governess in this latest scene – it’s a new chapter that I’m adding near the end of the book at someone’s request. He doesn’t know this yet but he’s going to write a bunch of letters that he won’t be able to mail because REASONS. These new letters are going to be full of piney, angsty grief. It’s going to be delicious. Got to go do that right now!

Much love.

Who Is Your Home?